YTA Dude probably stop posting on Reddit and use the time to self-reflect. It sounds like you and your ex both have Carter’s burnout. Fine. However, can you see how your wife would be angry if she is paying the bills, doing the housework and caring for your daughter too? While you stay up late playing games with your friends?

It is not emasculating to pitch in more when you are out of work. That is what partners do for each other. While she extends herself to cover more of the finances, you extend yourself to cover more of the home responsibilities. If you did the minimum with the mail, don’t you think it’s fair for her to do the minimum with the late fees?