we have had this conversation, many many times. every time it happens Max says “you know how important my project is to me” or “you know how big of a deal working with Jen is for me” or “okay this will be the last time I promise”. she missed my birthday, she didn’t show up to my moms birthday dinner (they’re really close) because Jen said they had to work late, I booked a weekend away for us and we were packing the car about to leave when Maxine bailed saying Jen wanted to work, she’s cancelled on dinner plans with me multiple times last minute because Jen keeps her late, there’s honestly so many more examples. and we have the conversation every single time it happens. and now, we have a full day of plans Tuesday and she knows I’ve taken the day off work, and she bails again. I’m trying so hard to be supportive but I feel like she’s never prioritizing me, ever. I’ve barely seen her the past few months. I think Max is letting it happen because she could put her foot down and say she’s busy Tuesday (or other days she has plans), but she refuses to counter Jen in any way.