seems like she only wants to be with you cos you are older and more stable. she only went for you in the first place because you being older and stable meant you could be good husband material. 23 yr old guys cannot offer her the family life she wants. most are broke from university and aren't ready for marriage. still sowing their wild oats so she specifically went for you from day 1 because you can offer something the guys her age can't which is the family life she wants. you have a choice. you are either ok with this and want the same thing and you aren't ok with it. either way if you tell her that's not what you want. chances are she will break up with you for another 40 yr old man who would marry her cos it seems like she just wants to settle down. i am female and have been in long term relationship (6 yrs) with a man 20 yrs older than me. we didn't marry or have kids and i loved him alot but unfortunately things didn't work out for us for different reasons. Actually my problem was the opposite. he wanted to live together and test the waters for marriage and eventually get married and i didn't. lol he broke up with me after i told him i didn't want marriage. :( i loved him so much though.