Me and Jim have been having sex on and off for 5 years. We were always physically attracted to each other and as well became strong close friends. Than over 2 years ago became emotionally vulnerable and we became in love. Now we have been together 2 full years long term relationship. We even talk about growing old together and living together one day. 5 months ago that was the last time we had passionate sex. He was soo passionate slowly after that the bedroom died. I talked to him multiple times about it. First he thought I needed sex on physically necessary level and kept telling me to handle it myself. Than finally after 2 talks I burst into tears and said that sex is important to me for closeness between each other and desiring each other makes us feel so much closer. Than he finally realized what I meant. Nothing happened after that.we still are cuddling and making out and kissing deeply and holding hands. He admitted one day he has anxiety about sex. I tried an idea to get him back into having sex with me step by step first we physically cuddle with only boxers on and than we message each other with a mask over his eyes it has been weeks. We had a huge fight about something else. We usually have sex after a fight i was kissing him and laughing and kept asking to make out. We Made out so much he turned the tv off!!! Finally a break through we tried to have sex. Cause I asked to have intercourse with me. I guess I scared him off. After that he went away for 11 days. And usually when he goes away when he comes Bck we have sex. I wanted this time just to make out try to get him arrouse. I said let's make out for 5 minutes. He said 5 minutes of making out?! I felt ashamed to even want that. And he went back to drinking beer and watching youtube and i went back on reddit and died inside. Now we dont deeply kiss anymore unless i beg. And once I beg it is a turn off and I dotn want it anymore. We dont make out. He doesn't want me. I feel crappy