My FMIL is a sweetheart and we have a good relationship but she's so.. Sensitive? Emotional? Thinks everything is personal? I don't know.

Last summer she found out FH was an atheist (has been since he was a teen), got into an argument with him, then stopped talking to us for months. (I'd still tell her Hi, hope you're doing well, and she'd respond in kind.) Gradually started again by winter and everything was normal by the time we saw her at Christmas. During this time I had asked her for her opinions/input/requests about the wedding and she didn't really offer so I dropped it. Luckily she also isn't paying for anything so we didn't think she expected to have input. My mom offered to do the flowers and centerpieces for free so I said sure.

Now it's 2 months before the wedding and FMIL is suddenly sending me pins of what she wants the centerpieces to look like, even after I already told her they've been purchased and paid for. We did accomodate some of her recent requests: groom's cake, chocolate favors, and sparklers, but everything else has been planned. It was planned months ago when she was wasn't talking to us. But now she is upset that she isn't more involved.

Oh, I asked her what her ides were for rehearsal dinner and she suggested renting out our clubhouse. It was a great idea and I told her so. I booked it. Then she told me she changed her mind and wants it at a restaurant.

She was also unhappy that the guest list has more guests from my side. We invited the same circles; I have 13 first cousins. I can't help that I have a big family. So now she's the only parent who is getting invites for her friends and it's not enough.

She's not being mean about any of this, just overly sensitive and taking it too personally. Fiance has been putting his foot down but it just makes her upset. I think their relationship is still not at 100%.

It's made me sick of wedding planning and I want it all to be over.