Hey guys follow up related question? can I do that in this thread? SKIP TO THE BOTTOM FOR TLDR
Have an old hookup from a year ago trying to hang out again. We haven't talked about having sex again but its all we ever do when we hang out. So I plan to ask her to take an STD test with me because shes a bit more sexual than I am and I ain't trying to give my future wife STDS. (Last time we were hooking up, she went got a BF on okcupid 2 weeks into it, broke it off with me but then continued to come over to my apartment to watch TV shows with me. She lived down the hall. I gave her a blanket and had one for myself because I was trying to be respectful, but she kept scooting closer to me on the couch and ended up leaning on me pretty much. Then one night my roommates came home and were being loud so we went to my room to watch because I actually have a bigger TV in there and it was okay until the show ended and then she just never left and kinda decided to sleep the night? Def not cool but we had literally just been hooking up the week before so I didnt think as much of it. Anyway ever try to sleep in the same bed as someone you been fucking but you just aren't. We both were up all night tossing and turning so turned on not able to sleep. At like 4am I said fuck this tortue and just put my arm around her to just cuddle which ended up turning into making out which turned into me going down on her but unfortunately her guilt wouldn't let her cum (I think) and after AN HOUR OF ME DOING WORK, we gave up and she left because she felt bad. CUE the biggest blue balls of my life. But I deserved it for doing that with a girl in a relationship. I regret it. We never have hung out since and haven't really talked until a month later then the incident she called all pissed because someone had told her boyfriend she hooked up with me ( she told him about us hooking up right before they got together) and she thought it was me. She believed me when I said it wasn't. Probably her best-friend whos a guy is in love with her and did it lmao, I plan to ask her if she ever found out. Anyway because of her infidelity with me and her general personality (daddy issues, all tattooed out, how we first started hooking up) I think it would be a great idea that we both get tested. Shes actually a really nice and chill girl, I like her alot just as a friend though, even if we didn't hook up, I'd still want to hang out with her. OH and last thing is we both don't use condoms. We just think it makes sex shit, shes on the pill and my pullout method has a success rate of 1/200 or so. Not sure the actual number but its around there from long term relationships I've bee in. So no condoms is def a reason to get STD tested.
******TLDR ***** Question is: How do I let her know before she comes over not to be expecting sex? I dont think I should mention the STD test until we hang out and get comfortable with each other again. I plan on telling her I want to take STD tests after we make out for a bit and things get hot and heavy.
I honestly don't mind if we make out or go down on each other the first night , herpes on my face for some reason isn't as bad as herpes on my dick. I guess a blowJ could do it too but hmm...