I was unhappy in my marriage, and she knew. She wanted to be my friend, and it nice to get some attention and have someone to talk to at work, because I didn't really get along with most of my coworkers ... not bad people, just mostly 20yrs older than me, and conservative. So, I was just happy to have someone my own age, that I could talk to. the fact that she was super hot was just a bonus.
So, about a month into being friends, she starts getting REALLY touchy, looking for excuses to be alone with me, squeezing between me and, say, a shelf, so she can grind her ass against me on the way by ... really obvious signals.
I've already threatened to leave my wife a few times at this point ... she was depressed after the birth of our daughter, refusing treatment, buried herself in her work ... she would come home from work, go to bed IMMEDIATELY, and then get up at 3AM, watch TV until 7 (when I get up), go back to bed, then get up again for work when I left for work. She insisted she wasn't avoiding me, or our daughter, and that she was happy and couldn't see anything wrong. I told her 'If I'm going to be a single parent, I'm going to be single!', and started sleeping in the guest room.
So, my new best friend is sending signals, and I'm ready to jump ship, but I know she's married and, supposedly, happy ... so, I come right out with it 'Hey, I'm not sure your husband would be cool with you grinding your ass on me like that'. She answers back 'I don't think he would care ... it's been over between us for years. Honestly, we moved here so I could be close to my parents ... because I've been planning to leave him since before we came here'.
She laid out a whole story about how they were never a good fit, and she thought having kids would fix it, but it only made it worse, and she wanted to move 'home' for family support (which is why she had to get a new job).
So, I told her if she left her husband, fair game. She said she would, and it was game on. She did leave him, and I left my wife, and we basically lived together for 8 months ... then she starts being manipulative, lying about stupid stuff, obsessively checking up on me ... and I just don't have the energy to deal with her.
When I dumped her, she changed her story entirely. She claimed she was happy in her marriage before she met me, that I was the only reason she left her husband and ruined her marriage, and all that.
I feel like her second story fits a lot more with the facts. I think she just knew I wouldn't want her cheating, and she told me what I wanted to hear (she did that a LOT).
So, from this poor bastard's perspective, he had a happy wife and a healthy marriage, then two weeks later he's looking for apartments and some stranger is fucking his wife. I found out later that she didn't break it off before we started fooling around either.
Oh, well ... live and learn, right? The amazing thing was that leaving my wife actually pushed her into therepy, and she got herself straightened out, and we got back together. We're doing great, and happy now.
She met a new guy, and was married to him, 8 weeks after I dumped her. Dodged a bullet there ... and I wonder if her first husband doesn't feel the same way.