Honestly its an interesting topic for me since following RP as my family is quite well set up and works extremely well. My parents have been married for years (40+) while having a lot of kids (4+). My background is probably not like most others here yet I still struggled with women.
My mother has been a housewife for the whole time my parents have been married and is nothing like what OP describes in that she is most definitely a silent sufferer. She has done and sacrified alot for myself and my siblings and NEVER complains or complained.
My father is the traditional hard working, head of the house. He has worked extremely hard over the years to support the family and was always the disciplinarian out of the parents. My mother would use the threat of telling my father I did something bad to get me to stop being bold or whatever and even though my father never actually did anything I was terrified.
I am really lucky to have the parents I have IMO. They quite simply come from a different time where when you got married you were married for life. I have seen my parents go for days barely talking to eachother if they were fighting yet my mother would still be up at 6.30 every morning to get my father ready for work (breakfast, iron shirts etc) and would always have his dinner ready for him when he came home. All the while they might not say a word to eachother until they sorted out whatever they were fighting over which they always did. I just can't see any woman I have ever met doing the same things that my mother would have done for my father and family and is one of the reasons why I know I will never get married (lol the traditional woman could live up to my mother tripe but its true).
I was never close to my father until I got older. Really it was just because he was working most of the time and the time I did spend with him was him making me do hard work which I never appreciated, fixing cars, hard garden work like cutting wood etc (hated actually, I wanted to play video games) so because of this I wanted to avoid him to avoid the hard work. Now don't take this the wrong way, we did have an amicable relationship we just weren't close until I sorted my life out and started to appreciate all he did for me and tried to teach me. Now I would say that we are much closer and actually I started to emulate alot of things that he does which have helped me do a lot education and career wise.
Now we get to women. As good as my father has been in teaching me to be a man. He did literally nothing to help me with women and I struggled through my late teens and early twenties but am doing pretty good now. Still now my father will talk about my future and my future wife and family and I try to tell him that they don't make women like they used to so I doubt I will get married but he insists that NAWALT. My brother is married to a foreign women and while he was never slaying pussy left and right he has always done ok for himself (always in relationships with foreign women though). My sisters are married and in long term relationships (think 10+ years and an inevitability of marriage) and while I guess I would't know for sure but they have never seemed like sluts at all. Id say they have both had about 3-5 serious long term relationships and thats it. Would be very surprised if either of them have a N count of > 10.
I don't know why I struggled with women for so long. And actually I used to do great, my years from say 13-16/17 I was one of the popular guys in school with girls, from then till about 22 I was awful. Friendzoned left and right and wasn't having any sex at all. It got to the point where people thought I was gay lol. My guess would be that I learned to deal with women from tv and film so was always going to go the blue pill route. Also I used to be the best at a certain sport in my geographical area (think possible future professional level) until a serious injury around 16/17 stopped me playing forever. I lost alot of confidence in my life around that time because of that and it affected me in everything women, school, work.
Not sure what the point of me posting all this was but it was good to think about.