Asexual Bro Again. Looking For Buds, Please?

A few things: you say you're looking for guys in their 20s, but you're closer in age to some 30-somethings than some 20-somethings, so maybe you should expand your age range to include early 30s at least. The older you go, the less guys will be driven by sex.

If you complain about the guys you've chatted with before, new guys aren't going to want to chat with you. It's standard advice to not badmouth you're previous partners on first dates or in dating profiles, just like you're not supposed to badmouth your previous employer at a job interview.

In general, try to be less negative. You don't need to talk about how little luck you're having in love-- that just tends to make people uncomfortable. And if you come across as desperate, people will avoid you. Sucks, but that's how it is.

You're unemployed and supported by your parents, and you're at the age where you really have to start getting your life together, right now. It's socially acceptable to be figuring yourself out in your 20s, but something changes when you approach and reach 30. In your early and mid twenties, you can drift, but in your late twenties, you're expected to be at least starting to build an adult life for yourself. If you need to go to school, enroll in your local community college or a training program. Or get a job with a future and start working on it. Or get any job that will get you out of the house.

The reality is that most people have to work at your age, and they won't be okay with being intimate buds with someone who doesn't do anything and isn't even trying to support themselves.

It sounds like you're starved for physical affection. Even if you're not in a place in your life where most would consider you dateable, you can still find someone to cuddle with. You can post an ad on Craigslist or r4r or something or a profile on an app or site, and don't be picky, and you'll find a guy to touch you.

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