David DeAngelo, cocky comedy. Douhble your Dating, and Attraction ISn't a Choice are his books that explain it. You should read both. But what makes a GREAT difference is his seminars (audio or video) Cocky Comedy, Approaching Women, Meeting Women in BArs and Clubs, MEeting Women Online.

I like it because it's not boring "I thought you were cute and I thought I'd say hi" or talking about her hobbies or what work she is doing.

Cocky Comedy, as the name calls, makes you into a very cool and arrogant stand up comedian. It makes pick up fun, funny, entertaining and exciting.At the height of my game, meeting a girl who met me despite living with her boyfriend, at Starbucks in Tampere (the one close to the train station): I got her punch my arm, kick my shin, and laugh so much that random people were coming up to me to introduce themselves, give me their facebook, or to say "I know a guy who looks just like you, we have a party why dont you come?" - I had never had that level of social proof in my life. Here I was just teasing and busting this beautiful blonde's balls, and people were treating me like a celebrity, and she was liking me all the more for it (We had sex in the restroom of Stockmann (a mall/department store) 2 hours later.

Compare it to a guy who is having a boring conversation and trying to learn "things" about her, her family, give her compliments, fishing for compliments, try to say some things silently so nobody else will hear it and think he is a creep..

It's all about the status. Cocky and Funny requires you have VERY HIGH STATUS and lightly poke fun at her not having as much status as you. It's fun, it's not mean-spirited, and it stimulates the mind.

Read, listen (the audio seminars are akin to a stand up comedy show, with guests and audience questions. You'll be entertained while you learn)