I was in a somewhat similar situation. We had been oh my with my mother in law for two years.comand.were.expecting find baby. I wasn't happy there because we had very little space, mother in law smoked, a shared dirty kitchen with a horder isn't so wonderful. We were broke because paying off debt.

Well, I was the only one who saw a problem. Mother in law thought it was great and husband thought everything was "fine". Never mind we spent all our time in one room, never had sex (cause having sex at his mom's house is icky) and no personal space.

So, I took the initiative. My living supportive husband wasn't being his normal self. So, I got a job as a nanny, I brought my kid with me. I saved every penny. I house hunted for months until I found a place we could afford which is hard to do in the bay area....$1275 for a one bedroom duplex (and this was a decade ago) was a steal and I organized people to help us move. And then.....things changed.

We moved and suddenly my husband realized how a MILLION times better this was. It was like he had on blinders because he was just trying to survive. It was was incredible hard from both of us and we weren't always team. But what made it all ok in the end was that I had a way to have money so my decisions weren't based on fear.

When you can take care of yourself, you don't need to be afraid of being alone so much. I stayed with my husband because I was hopeful not afraid to be without him. It was a hard two more years but after some therapy together, things have changed nicely and were better partners.

So, I guess the reason from this overly long story is because I always cringe when people advise others to break up in a situation that's fixable. It's hard because right now bf is the one in the wrong but you're the one who needs to work on yourself.

Also, random question. Why is house sitting alone so scary but moving in there isn't? Sometimes you seem a bit dramatic and I think it might he making it hard for by to take you seriously.