To echo /u/mALYficent on being far apart from family...

I live in FH's home town. We're 30min from his parents. And 11,000 miles from mine. We see his family regularly ... I see mine once a year maybe? When (if) we have kids it's going to be incredibly difficult to be so far away from my mother and extended life-long support network. It's going to be tough watching our kids grow and identify home as being his city, the forests and woodland birds of his country, and not the wide open spaces and sun-kissed beaches of mine. Their lives, their political beliefs ... they will all be shaped just by being here, and being exposed more to his family than to mine. I worry about my family. Will I not be able to say goodbye to my grandmother because I'm so far away? What will happen when my parents are too elderly to care for themselves? Will there always be the money if I need to do a last-minute trip? Will there always be the time and ability to take care of their affairs from afar? What will happen to my brother? It's ... quite frankly ... terrifying to think about. And marriages are prone to making you think long-term.

But this is the choice I have made. I have done so willingly, and in full knowledge of both what I lose and what I gain. My sadness in leaving my country is tempered with the pride I have in my new one. FH's family, while not those I grew up with, are warm and kind. If I raise kids who are like FH, with only a little bit of 'me', then I will personally still consider that a raging success. We're both on the same page regarding my family involvement too.

That is, importantly, these are all issues, fears, hopes, and possibilities that I have discussed fully with FH.

Now, of course, these are all issues for me, and may well differ for you. I suppose my comment is merely, that it's actually really good to have frank discussions about the future!