As mentioned in the thread, I think people recommending this do it in good faith but do not understand the struggles of what it’s like to utterly fail at dating.

To them, dating probably comes naturally. So, they don’t necessarily have to try and the framework of their mindset is “well, it didn’t work out for this one but she truly is a good friend now. I’ll have better luck next time” and then they do have a “next time” and the “next time” it works out for them.

So, in their limited experience they are saying to you, “you’ll eventually find one, and you may garner a few friends along the way!” — they probably genuinely mean this, because that is their experience.

If on the other hand, all they did was accumulate friends and nothing else, then they’d understand better.

It’s easy once you have something to say “don’t worry about it”. They don’t have to worry about it, because they already have it. But why should they trivialize or deny that you have the same needs and wants as they do romantically?

For most people, they have long term relationships and get married. By their late 20s, they probably experienced numerous amounts of one night stands and a few solid relationships. But for others in their late 20s, they never experienced a single resort ship and are even further behind.

What you have to realize is not everyone will have a relationship. Too awkward, too average looking, not hot, etc.

At that point you have to own it, accept it, and do something else with your life.

You may never truly get over it, and be constantly reminded by it when you’re out in that awesome vacation and you see a cute couple together.

But you just have to accept it.