God DAMN, my now EX attorney is a complete prick.
I messagd him politely with inquiries as to why I was not given a full debriefing while my father was, on legal matters concerning my own finances. And also mention how I did NOT appreciate his usage of physically intimidating me into a lobby room corner last we met.
He quits without telling me (but rants about my rudeness to my dad)... Proving my point completely, to me, at least. He's not appropriately behaved and I am certain he would not be treating me like trash if he wasn't a narcissist himself. I've always suspected he was. You're very much like the company you keep, and he keeps constant company with my NDad.
I show my dad the texts and surprisingly?! Even he wonders what I said that was so awful.
Never ever had him on my side in years, wow.
So I thought maybe I could get somewhere with my dad. To a maybe better and far more pleasant relationship (my perpetual futile hope).
But no. Of course not.
Our phone call ended with me in disbelieving tears. Why I'm STILL surprised by the depravity in our conversations idk. But he's my dad. I don't like thinking of him as an evil person.
But now he's just being insane and once again, short sighted OR 100% selfish.
I'm handicapped by chronic pain and atrophy BC of getting hit by a goddamn mini cooper going 55 mph or so. I was in my car, yeah, but it got totaled. Well, about 60k in medical expenses plus a third of the settlement for the attorney representing me (gentle ones, who had lunch with me, hugged me, and gave appropriate counsel - none of this intimidation bullshit my dad's friend pulled)..
My dad wants all that's left, and it's enough for a downpayment in SoCal for like, a manufactured home, that's it - but I could live there while renting out 2 rooms @ $500-650 for the rest of my college days.
No.. Dad disagrees. I'm better receiving $200 in SSI disability and food stamps, somehow. And he's dead set getting me to agree to change it all to his name, saying I owe him for raising me. Wut wut wut.
I'm infuriated by this but I hate hypocrisy oh so much.
God DAMN.. My dad is a master at being a hypocrite. He rants at me for 17 minutes (yea, I timed it) about shit I pulled in 7th grade - he says I played hookie, I remind him I was absent cause of bullies that the principal even made give me a public apology.
He makes it a focal point for the difficulties raising me brought to his life.
Particularly to my mom.
I remind my dad that it's not due to him making zero past mistakes that I never bring em up.. But BC I feel it would suck to have your mistakes rubbed in your face from eons ago. I should know.
He demands me to admit he's never made a mistake - uh no - instead I point out how he lost my mom 300k in IRS fines and almost jail time BC he didn't record our income and pay our taxes on time.
He spends 34 min ranting how THAT IS IRRELEVANT NOW AND HE ASKED FOR EXAMPLES OF MISTAKES, NOT PAST PROBLEMS ALREADY SOLVED
Does ANYONE besides me see the discrepancy present here?!
Dear God, and he truly ended the call asking me to really just finally kill myself.
One day I'm almost 99% certain I will hang myself in my closet, because 24 years of living have all been shitty.