sorry for the novel-sized responses, its hard to explain everything we're feeling concisely, and I prefer to be accurate than concise. without going into too much detail (its her story, not mine), they've been having problems lately because they are too close and around each other all the time. it was a mutual decision that they needed space and other people, or they wouldn't be happy. hence, break up. I admit I was a little unsure about it, but I've since seen them and they seem pretty happy with the decision. I'm not one to comment on it. he's allowed to tinder chicks too. I didn't say we're separating her boyfriend from the equation, he's welcome to come and in fact invited. we mentioned that a soft foursome would be ideal to start with if he was into it. if he'd rather not join in and he's okay with it, we'll do a threesome. if neither of them like the idea, we do nothing. both of them are great people and are super honest and open, like I said. I'm sure if this is an issue we can all move on like adults. nothing is going ahead without total comfort.

yes, I do have body image issues, and that may end up being a problem cause she's hot, but with the boyfriend I have (he's already nearly quashed my insecurities just in our recent conversations) I'm on my way to trusting that part of me. watching my boyfriend sleep with her or another girl would be extremely hard and upsetting, but I admitted already that I'm not comfortable with penetration. for now, that's a medium-soft limit. it's the same for Daniel, in regards to Mark and I. the rest, foreplay, is fair game for both of us. maybe it'll hurt to see at first, but we're solid as a rock. we reassure each other. single unit. won't budge. he knows exactly the right thing to say to me and we love each other so incredibly deeply.

we've read thread after thread after thread of catastrophic failures, problems, and successes regarding this. our homework is very thorough.

I know. it's the emotion that scares me, but also appeals to me. and honestly.... we've talked about that and it's kind of sensitive but we worked through it. my boyfriend is a fucking rockstar in the sheets and so am I. we're wildfire. nothing compares to being in love and fucking each other's brains out. I love these guys, and it sounds selfish to say, but I couldn't care less about Mark in that way... he'll never ever be able to do to me the things that Daniel can. I'm in bed with them for Daniel and for me, and in bed for Christy. I'm bicurious but not curious about other dudes. Mark's feelings mean as much as hers in the group and he won't be unincluded but he is as little as a threat to us as he could be. just like I'm not REALLY worried that D will find C better than me. it's our chemistry.