I truly believe that the only thing a man needs to be better at than their female equivalent is to be less shy and more initially charming. It's why a lot of men who are shy, anxious, and introverted end up alone.
People end up dating those in the same class level and looks level. So your implication is that if the man needs to be "better," these statistics wouldn't be as they are. Insofar as money and status, you're seeing this as so because women provide children, maternal qualities, and youth. If I'm going to date a few years older (which is what is typical), ideally they'd be making more than me. My boyfriend makes as much as I'm projected to make at his age.