Had a friend of mine who is in an abusive relationship tell me today she is 10 weeks pregnant. She has gotten abortions in the past when this has happened with her on/off ex. She makes minimum wage and is hardly supporting herself. I have helped her a few times financially to try to help her leave him. I know abusive relationships are complicated, and the only real answer is leaving. She also doesn’t have any friends or family in the state. So I’m scared for her and the baby. Her motives for keeping it are to solidify their relationship. So she’s doing this for the worst reasons. It’s just a shit situation, and all I can do for her right now is be there for her. I have given her my 2 cents, but she has never taken my advice.

But I can’t help the jealousy or the judgement. Because I have PCOS it’s going to be a challenge for me to conceive. My SO and I have done all the things to prepare to bring a baby into a happy, healthy, supportive home. I would never bring a child into a situation like that, and I feel like I’ve seen her in another light now because of her decision.

Sorry for the rant, it’s just a lot to process.