I'm sorry to hear that OP. I can't fix how you feel or the toxic ideas that have been hammered into you by our society, BUT:

As I was growing up I had the exact opposite idea of women that you did. I was told (and believed, and still do) that women are capable of anything. If we have any gender differences at all, then women and men's are complimentary, not greater than or less than. I have known many women who are accomplished engineers, leaders, community members, etc. In my family, women were "in charge" and "the boss". Everything you talk about has another side (since when is sex for men? Some of the most sexually adventurous and sexually satisfied women I've known have been Feminists who have had sex because THEY wanted to!)

I'm not sure you will listen to this but: these ideas are a choice. You're making a choice to hate yourself right now, and to buy into all the bullshit that you perceive all around you. I don't know why you're doing this but it's NOT INEVITABLE. Frankly you sound deeply, deeply depressed, and it sounds like you are buying into negative ideas the way a depressed person listens to sad music.

Goddamn, I have known many, many incredible women in my life. Take some pride in yourself and who you are! There's nothing stopping you in this world, least of all your gender. And I guarantee you that, despite your sadness and the very real sexism in the world, the vast majority of people don't see you as any less because of something silly like genitals, and that you have an incredible future out ahead of you. This struggle does not define you!

PS: It's funny that you mention childbirth: I've always heard that women have a higher pain tolerance for just this reason! So there's 2 sides to every coin - remember not to take everything everyone says so seriously, and that YOU have value beyond what anyone else can see.