All the people telling you you shouldn't feel a particular way because it wasn't the kids fault- no, it's not their fault. But they don't understand what it feels like. How the anger rises anyway. I don't think bad of you for how you feel, it's natural. But yes you will have to learn how to manage it so you can be decent.

My husband had 2 accidental kids with his new girlfriend after high school. He was young, they didn't get along well, and over time she became abusive, cheated & left. I don't have any negative feelings about the first unintended pregnancy because I know that people make dumb choices. But I'm extremely upset that he went on to make another child with someone who he couldn't stand to be with. They separated before the kid was even 6 months old. That's some bull**** to saddle a kid with!! BM went on to have a kid with her new man immediately (she's like that) who has severe developmental issues. The SKs do not have a good environment in that home because of all the pressures & stress that comes with having 3 young kids, one who has autism. If my SO had been less stupid, his second child wouldn't be struggling for attention the way that he is. The whole thing is just sad.