I suspect you may have replied to the wrong comment. Either that or I really really should have been in bed two hours ago. I don't mind if it's the wrong comment, was interesting to read, but it may be nice for the correct commenter to see your useful comment too. I apologize in advance for probably rambling. I definitely agree with that you shouldn't make others to take part in your dynamic, but it's pretty common in less formal mainstream socialization to refer to your partner by pet names either as "my X" or self-explanatory petname as name (which plenty people do find annoying, especially the more sickeningly sweet/or unusual they are), and so that can carry over too easily without people reflecting on what they're actually doing. Not saying it's right, just that a brief conversation may help fixing the problem when encountered. Some are unintentionally more relaxed and less formal in kink related settings, especially when they by default indiscriminately think of anyone involved in kink as "my kind of people" until proven wrong, and act too familiar because of that. Especially if they outside of kink settings spend too much time feeling they can't be themselves enough, and go too far in the other direction when they "finally" get to be in a social setting they consider home. Personally, I'm too used to seeing words such as "Daddy" be more of a pet name unrelated to actual play, so while I very easily see why it used randomly can make people uncomfortable, I wouldn't have thought of it being a play thing unless it was used in an obviously play way (them not acting like whole people, too limited range of behavior), and wouldn't have weirded me out when not realising. I'm a bit dense sometimes :D Same way it would have to be fairly obvious for me to realize if someone was trying to show off their cleavage vs them just not dealing well with the heat/being sun needy and just dressing that way for non-exhibitionist reasons. I don't know if I am incorrect or not (in my sheltered state) thinking have rarely experienced people actually trying to involve others in their dynamic without consent. But then again, I do know I often assume the nicer possibility when people err, and I haven't attended munches and so on yet. Referring to someone as "my daddy dom(me)" or "my submissive" or "my pet" sounds more like descriptive social info re what they mean to them, especially if followed by a name when relevant. Same way "my husband" or "my girlfriend" would, to me, and can easily be overused the same way they can of course. If someone vanilla speaks as if they have no independent thought or always always have to specify who a situation was with or specify who said something, especially if it's usually the same person, that's really weird name-dropping. If someone rather than just occasionally saying "my pet" or "my pet [person's name]" also insists on that you refer to the third person as "your pet" or "your owner", that's blatant enough roping people in to your dynamic for it to be disturbing even to me.