Appealing to the authority of your fucking therapist because she's "studied psychology" is the most BPD thing I've ever read.

Yes people with BPD can be abused. Anyone can be used. People with BPD are also much more likely to view ordinary behavior as cruelty as a function of their disorder. Look at all the posts on here talking about how cold and heartless and selfish the world is.

Propose to you multiple times? So you said no?? How the fuck was HE the one "stringing you along" when he was literally proposing you and you were refusing it? "Stringing along" means making you think he cares about you, when he doesn't and has ulterior motives. YOU WERE REJECTING HIS FUCKING MARRIAGE PROPOSALS, AND NOW YOU HAVE THE GALL TO CALL HIM ABUSIVE AND MANIPULATIVE?

And good job on controlling your anger. I guess your somewhat less abusive than you used to be lol.

Let me be 100% clear: You were not gaslighted. Gaslighting means convincing you you are crazy for manipulative purposes. You ARE crazy. You ARE the one in the wrong. You were not "emotionally neglected" (what a ridiculous concept lol). That phrase implies people OWE you some kind of emotional support, and by not providing that, they are the bad guy. He doesn't owe you shit, it is YOUR responsibility to not be fucking crazy. Do you really not understand how fucked that is, to put that on him?

You are toxic, unstable, mentally deranged person and I'm happy your BF got away from you while he could.