3. Have you ever been dumped via text? did you ever find out why?

Have you ever been dumped via text? did you ever find out why?

So I got "dumped" by text two days ago his exact words being:

"I want you to be happy. I am worried that we clash so much. I care about you a lot and im not sure why we clash so much, but we seem to"

I told him he needs to be sure about this because this has happened a few times with us. Either him or me that "breaks up" but we end up back together. And that we have to make an actual decision and stick to it. i told him if its for real then I am not coming back: He then went on to say:

"ive been thinking. I honestly think we clash too much and are not compatible. Im sorry. I do love you. But thats not the issue"

My perspective of this has been that he just stopped trying and stopped caring. He always never has "time" he stopped being intimate for a couple of months. When i asked him why he said it makes him "nervous" but he wouldnt expand on it. I had been feeling unloved, unwanted, uncared for by him. While i would give everything- bend over backwards for him, he would ignore my birthday, barely call me, if i called he would ignore it with no explanation. When he did ever call the conversation would last 5-10 mins max after a while he would want to just get off the phone. His main form of communication was text. He stopped wanting me over his house. So basically every time we met up (which usually was after he had cancelled twice in a week to finally come and see me) he would give me a "peck" of a kiss no other form of affection. although every now and then would shuffle my hair or hold my hand for a few seconds.

Recently he told me he spoke to his ex, who was his first love and i know he holds her dearly to his heart (who is married with 2 kids). She told him she has a heart problem so he gave her contact details for the best doc in the country. - I was ill he didnt even ask if i was ok yet tells me he "loves me".

This whole thing has been so confusing. I know at the back of my head it seems that he doesnt give a shit about me but then why say lets see how this goes and if we can work towards an engagement for the end of the year? Im hurt and feel played. What was the point of dragging me through this?

After that dump text i told him i think its best we remove each other and he said he wont block and delete me.

Ive finally given up hope that he will ever compromise or actually care about me. So after he tried to dump me through text i completely agreed with him- told him everything that i felt and how he treated me. i guess i went "in" on all his flaws and all the issues. And told him exactly why we "clashed" because i was trying and he wasnt. And then blocked him :( (not to get back at him but so that i dont message him and allow myself to move on)

A bit of a background:

He is a Doctor (so always pretty busy..but not so busy that ive noticed that he chats to alot of people in general on his phone), he lied to me about his age and 6 months later i found out because i found his passport (he told me he is 32 when he was 37) I was 24, now i just turned 26. i forgave him because he begged for a chance.

Any men out there who could give me their thoughts on this? or even his behaviour as to why he would stop all the intimacy yet stick around and in general treat me like this?

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