I read some of this and scanned the rest, but I think I got the point. Regardless of your cultural context I think this still stands.

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There are lots of people that are bull-headed, many men, and many have been encouraged to be that way. They are taking command of the situation and feel the onus of entertaining you. That's flattering for sure, but when they come back and complain that you aren't providing entertainment, it's pretty ironic. They have set a precedent, have probably deliberately sought out a quite woman (that listens politely and makes them feel good about themselves), and have dominated the types of conversations you are having which puts you in a position of likely assuming they aren't interested in other things. Then they demand more from you.

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In my experience, this type of person is just generally self-focused and inconsiderate. You sound like a lovely and sensitive woman... you should be with a man that sees the quiet DEPTH that you have and works to bring it out of you :) the man that understands that there is treasure beneath and knows it's worth searching for. I am sure you will find it much easier to open up to a man that knows the value of that treasure, too.