Feel like you know your Nex better after the discard phase?

Yes!! I️ feel like I️ can read him like a book! Finally! After a year of going back and fourth.

He love bombed me with a surprise to my first time at Disneyland ! What a waste!

We were “unofficial” AND long distance for 10months. Official for 5. The drive time away from each other was 6 hours, and boy, 6 hours means nothing when you think you’re in love.

l drive that trip , every. single. time.

Not once does he pay for gas.

During those 10 months he had already shown his true colors, but I️ trusted his words more. He’d flirt in my face , check out girls in my face, Search up every new girl he meets, search up girls out of state, etc etc.

I️ live with him for 3 months over the summer. Things start to come out.

I’d confront him and he would instantly get into a rage. I️ mean, INSTANTLY. After that cools off, he tries to explain himself. Let me tell you that a narcissist is extremely charming. Extremely. So he explains himself, “I️’m not like other guys! I’m not like that! You keep accusing me of girls but you can ask my roommates that I️ am not like that.”

I️ believe him.

Fast foreword back into the long distance . He hits me with “I’m so afraid that I️ will cheat on you and hurt you.” “Yeah, I️ want to have sex with other people.” “I’m not ready for a relationship.” “But I️ love you”

Basically shoving the whole , “I’m not like other guys” phrase down his throat. I️ really thought we were getting closer and progressing the relationship. Getting to know each other even better and creating more and more memories. Then, he flips like a switch and probably decides that he can no longer lie . I don’t know if I️ was in a relationship with myself , or who THAT part of him that I️ likes, was. But he’s gone. It’s really shocking.

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