"Friends" are always harbouring feelings of jealousy and resentment over me? What is going on...

Hey Ron.

Thanks for the response.

You sound really narcissistic. People feeling insecure around you is their inability or their need to build themselves up as well in order to cope with your arrogance. If you talk about how awesome you are in some random thing, they might feel the need to talk about how awesome they are in some particular thing just to 'keep up'.

I'll admit that I do feel like I'm pretty great. I'm starting to recognize that I'm not as great as I think I am. I'll probably get lamblasted and downvoted for this statement as well.

Growing up it's all I've ever heard. I used to do some modelling as well, so I've always been told the same shit. It got to my head and I've became a bit of a ham. Having friends that are influential in power in certain musical groups has also brought people into my life that try to get a slice of the cake as well. Being on stage in front of thousands at festivals also results in people coming up and asking for a photo for no reason. All of this has inevitably fed my ego, which I'm now trying to learn how to shatter.

You might have some loser friends? Are they grunge/hipster/artist wannabes? Do they lack enthusiasm or drive? Maybe you need a switch.

Ever since I've had to move back to my home city I've lost all contact with the people I actually considered my friends -- all that were late 20s, early 30s. Now that I'm back here I have no one to socialize with other than those of the past who still live here. They're all that you mention. I am now very aware that I need a switch. I'd like to know how I can meet more people that are a bit older, as I get along both romantically and in friendship with those older than myself.

You are asking the right questions and looking outside your peer group for answers. Excellent.

Thanks man.

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