There’s the dilemma though and one that I think has been reinforced by dating apps:

Taking the conversation somewhere can just lead to things fizzling out. The thinking is to try to get a date set up fairly quickly before it becomes just a boring back-and-forth texting (a situation especially likely to happen if you aren’t good at/ don’t like texting and are better at making a connection in real life).

How does one find balance between not being a texter and not rushing things? If you don’t appear enthusiastic about texting it can communicate a lack of interest. If you don’t progress things in a reasonable time frame it can appear like you just want to be friends.

Should I have just told her I’m not much of a texter and then waited a week or two before inviting her out?