Right, thank you! It's just baffling to me how they demand that it MUST be acceptable that they won't kiss you after oral and it's being Literally Hitler to think that's immature, but then it's so incredibly insulting to them that a woman would say "I'm not giving you oral then." OMG, then all hell breaks loose! Suddenly it's okay to judge someone's boundaries on /r/sex I guess, so long as it's about a man not getting a BJ that he wants! It's fine if a dude has specific needs/boundaries but if those boundaries happen to make someone else feel shitty, used, or unsatisfied they're going to inherently narrow their BJ-givers pool. If they don't like that they need to either re-think how important that boundary is to them, or they need to just deal with the fact that their actions have consequences and they aren't just entitled to BJs and fewer people out there will think they're a good candidate for receiving a blow job. On /r/sex the amount of women who really want to be able to kiss you after blowing you is likely to be a lot higher than the general public, but still.