3. Help with cheating wife

Help with cheating wife

Hey OP, I wasn't going to comment on your story but I changed my mind because I also want to tell you that it's not your fault.

If there were problems with the relationship, something that your wife wanted that you weren't giving her, she was an adult and could have told you about it. She didn't. You seem like a nice, caring guy, who provided a stable life, and she didn't appreciate that. Some people are sadly like that - they don't know what they have until they lose it, they never appreciate it when they have it, and they feel entitled to everything despite not giving the same in return.

I would not feel bad about sending her back to an area of welfare and I honestly wouldn't even give her ring, although in the long run it might be easier than to fight over it or have her try her hand at getting more out of you. You are not doing this to her, she is doing this to herself. If she appreciated you or the life you provided with her, it would have been quite easy for her to not screw her boss. Reserve your guilt for when you do things to others that they couldn't have prevented you doing to them. Someone choosing to do something to hurt you and then experiencing the fallout of you being hurt does not deserve your guilt.

I also want to highly stress that not all women are like this. You will most likely get private messages from very dysfunctional men, but ignore them. While what happened to you is horrible, it would be really sad for you to become a resentful shell of a human being over this when you have so much in your life and so much of your life left to live. This is one bad experience out of many you have yet to experience.

But in the future, I would really not get married until you've been dating someone for 3 years. That's not to blame this happening on you getting married so soon. You took a chance on someone and that doesn't speak negatively on you. But shitty people are good at acting not shitty at the beginning of a relationship when there's a chemical love high and everything is good. True test of character comes after the love high wears off and you've known someone for a while. So, look out for yourself and let people show you their true nature before swearing your life to them.

If you feel like you want to marry someone after 1 year of dating, hold off on it for another 3 years. After all, if you're meant to be together forever, they'll still be there in 3 years.

Best wishes

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