Hey girlfriend!

I feel for you!

(I'm going to close this reddit.. I want to protect my identity a bit. Feel free to hit me up on my other name, what_34.)

I stopped talking to my LO for about 2 months. Then he asked if we could have a 10 minute Detente. Break was over basically, but it helped cool things down a lot and helped me to RELY on myself, higher power, and HUSBAND.

We basically still talk on gchat about.. light hearted stuff. Fantasy football, his family is in a big move right now, I'm refinancing my mortgage.. blah blah

We're basically friends right now straight up. My husband knows I talk to him still a bit here and there.

I'm not saying it's good, bad, right or wrong. I'm just confessing I'm doing it. Talking to him almost every day. I don't know if I'm in denial... but.. if I ACTUALLY AM JUST FRIENDS WITH HIM is it okay? you know? I talk to a couple of people on the internet almost every day so maybe it is okay.. or maybe I'm just bargaining.

I'm trying the route of just friends and not trying to "abuse" it like I did when we first met. It's up and down.. but I'm in a place right now where I know he isn't right/good for me/kind of a jerk too at times....

I try to keep it uber casual when we talk and not get serious at all. So far so good?

How about you, how are you doing!? How did you meet your LO? Thank you so much for reaching out! I hope to hear from you at my other name, u/what_34.

If I don't, lots of love, luck, clarity, hope for you.

I just try to focus on being content in the life I've been given. I also know that NO ONE loves me like my husband does. Literally no one. This LO doesn't love me like my husband does or accept me like he does... I believe I married the right guy and should continue to build my life with him. :)

Let's talk again soon!!!