Oh, we are way beyond that! Like I said, we are remote coworkers. We don’t live in the same state. However, we have gotten work assignments from time to time at each other’s locations…and we do actively (and openly with each other) put in for those. When in person, we go to lunch, we go to dinner…we participate in the same hobby and have spent weeknights doing that. We’ve spent weekends together, too. So we are for sure beyond just coworkers.

A couple of the dinners we had this last time for sure were likely more romantic than what you’d think of for coworkers. One was LO’s suggestion and the other one was mine. But nothing has ever been initiated or mentioned by either of us.

I’m going through a divorce and LO is married, but I’m not sure the status and I will never ask. To be honest, I finally made the decision to leave my marriage based upon on how LO has made me feel. I am HAPPY for the first time in as long as I can remember and I know it was the right decision whether or not anything were to eventually happen with LO. LO confides a lot in me, but never about their spouse or marriage. I appreciate that we have good boundaries in that sense.

In a lot of ways, I’d like to just put my cards on the table and be honest, I guess. I kinda feel dishonest about hiding how I really feel when we have this incredible work relationship and friendship. But it’s a risk. I could lose the friendship and put the work relationship in peril.