Mostly yes, especially with my current one. I really like watching, reading, and listening to things my LO has sent me or mentioned she likes. For the most part our tastes are similar, but there's definitely some difference in our sensibilities that limerence has blurred the line of for me. I hold back from buying the same clothes and home goods since I think that crosses a line, but I've definitely modified my aesthetic/presentation because of my current LO, maybe subconsciously to be more appealing or nonthreatening. I've picked up some hobbies because of my LO. I think things like smoking or hobbies I previously had no interest in would be the line for me, but that probably would not be the case if I'd not been in therapy for over 15 years, since I see the appeal.

I think it's due to a mix of the things you listed, plus since my current LO is a friend, she recommends me stuff. I think there's also a desire to be more appealing and relatable. Plus I always want to better understand my LO as a person...I love the way she thinks. I love hearing my LO talk about things she likes and does. I don't really take on all her beliefs per se, but I value her opinion/perspective and always want to hear it. But definitely wanting to connect over shared interests and understand things they like has been present across all my LEs.