Some people can't lose the weight, some people never manage to quit cigarettes. Once you've slid into depression or gotten to a point where mobility is compromised it can be impossible to lose the weight, once you've gone too far with any addiction, or have gotten to a mental point where you cannot fight it, it may be impossible to stop. Some people are fat from a very young age, some are facing other issues.

I'm not saying people choose to get fat in the way people choose to smoke. I'm saying that the addictive qualities of food and the negative health aspects in obesity are similar to the addiction and long term health effects of smoking. While there isn't the same initial "choice" to start, there is a point where people can choose to quit. However, like all addictions, sometimes people cant shake it due to external factors.

Shaming is different than intolerance, fph was intolerant. But many of the people that contributed and read the content were people finding motivation to lose weight. I disagree so much with the creepshot approach but some of the principles behind their argument hold true for me.

As for the projecting hatred thing, I don't hate, I'm not morally opposed to obesity, I don't walk up to larger people in the street and tell them to change their lives. I don't support most shaming of individuals unless they are parents that have allowed their children to become obese (that's seriously messed up). I support shaming of the HAES movement, and of people who encourage other people to give up on weight loss.

I'm sorry to have given issue, I am probably still giving issue. I'm not sorry that I believe that people ought to value personal mobility and health a whole lot more than they do now. Not in the creepy fitness magazine way, but in quality of life. I don't want obesity to become a normalized and 'irreversible' process in people's minds.

I'm sorry it has been hard for you, your personal life is your business. The rising trends in obesity, however, are everyone's business.