ugh I feel you. It’s like your in the middle. You know what you want to do which is leave but you also feel guilt because of the help they are offering but the same time the control they have over you.

I’m probably going to be in that same situation in a few years but the way I look at it is that they will never understand what your going through. And the only person you have to trust is yourself. I would make the move then tell them. I feel if you tell them before hand they might sabotage your plans or do something fucked up.

But yeah this is something your gonna have to plan ahead. Get all your shit earlier. They might disown you. There definitely going to get angry. But you simply have to just make this move. Would you rather be in a prison or would you rather be in nature. If they loved us they would support us and they would encourage you to move on and focus on yourself. If they don’t like your decision and they are stuck in there old patterns then unfortunately you might just have to cut them off. It hurts cuz there gonna guilt the fuck out of you.

“ I paid all your stuff and you treated me like this”!!! Expect all that to happen. But simply understand they weren’t doing it out of love. My parents are Indian and deep down inside they know that the reason they do all this is because of control. Not because of love. And they feel they have some sort of power over your head. They crave that. That’s why I never get why these religious family’s like ours is so fucked up. It’s like a dumbass system lol. Where the parents control u and send you off to there choosing with marriage.

But once again, I have the mindset of breaking this cycle Of control and abuse so remember, if you do ever think about having kids just visualize the fact you can be that change and when you have kids they can look to you for love and support and if there in a situation like you are now they know they will get your full support. When I think like this I know I’m making the right decision so follow your gut and intuition and do what you gotta do! You got this fam