When I realised he was not a good man afterall and it was not just the alcohol. I couldn't make excuses for his shitty behaviour anymore. He had been sober for nearly 2 years post rehab, attended AA meetings but never did the steps. He never humbled himself, could not live life on life's terms and sadly never really truly appreciated the hurt he put me and others through nor appreciated me as a person. I was not a perfect partner but used my not willing to get engaged to him after one year of sobriety as an excuse to seek emotional validation/cheating with another woman and relapsed. He then tried to turn on me, projected on me and treated me like crap very recently whilst we were trying to reconcile, instead of doing the honourable thing of just leaving me alone.

It was over because I know I deserved better than this. I deserve stability, real love and appreciation and not the crumbs that he was giving me. Good luck to him and his piece on the side, her problem now.