Thank you for your response. You’re right. In my frustration and anger, I waited for an invitation to join him. I hoped he would send a text encouraging me to head over if my cat was feeling better or if everything had worked out with the vet. I was upset and hurt. I could have sent a text.

It is part of a pattern, I think. Maybe that’s where the anger comes from. My boyfriend had been single for a while (so had I—5 years) so he’s definitely set in his ways. A few weeks ago we had a discussion about his unwillingness to fit me into his schedule. He chooses to start work late (around 1pm), goes to the gym, eats dinner late (because he pretty much eats the same meal for dinner every day) and then strolls over to my place (I live a block away) between 9:30 and 10pm. It’s been frustrating because I end up staying up late in order to enjoy quality time with him even though I have to wake up a lot earlier than him. It’s been a struggle for us. I’ve tried to ask him to make small changes in an effort to accommodate me but he gets a little defensive. This meet up with his friends was an opportunity for them to see us as a couple and for me to feel like a part of his circle. It appears that including me or considering me doesn’t seem to be a priority for him. I hope to have an opportunity to share my feelings with him but I fear (based on his previous defensiveness) that it won’t resolve anything. Thanks again for your input.