When I started gay men were not allowed in my profession, so I was deeply closeted at work. I limited all contact to work related activities and functions only and maintained acquaintance level only contact with colleagues to minimise the risk of being found out.

I'm mildly introverted and out of bed I tend to be a bit reserved with strangers until I get comfortable with people. I got away with it until the social climate reversed the situation, we now have diversity policies etc. I'm no-one's token anything so all the surveys for politics, religion and sexual orientation are marked 'rather not say'.

I don't mix my work and personal lives, it's not just habit, I have seen too much office politics and the consequences to want to be involved, least of all in a romantic or sexual sense.

How I spend my free time, who I spend it with and who fucks me has nothing to do with my work, free time is downtime' and a break from the strictures of my professional life and I need that, blurring the boundaries would add complications I neither need nor want.