I know we're supposed to think "he's out there," but I'm not so sure. 2 of my best friends have been single forever, despite dating a lot and having a couple decent earlier relationships. I think every relationship is a compromise, and you make the best of it. My partner and I are late 50s and still cuddly and hug, and i can fall asleep next to him in seconds. But we haven't had sex in years.

Our sex routine faded after a health scare and never came back, but I don't miss it at all. I think part of it is that I had so much casual sex in my 20s, 30s, and 40s, sex became meaningless. Work, porn, different sleep routines, stress, and health all play a part too, but I'm happy cuddling on the couch and smooching and sharing massages, then going to bed. I just don't feel an orgasmic drive for him anymore, but I still love him. It's safe and comfortable and stable. That's where I am these days.

If my partner and I broke up, I'd sooner move in with or close to one of my best friends rather than dating again. I was lonely during my single days but also so grossed out by the weirdos, so tired of adapting to the self-centered guys I met, so dismayed by guys who cheated or ghosted. It just isn't worth my time to look for "him." I feel grateful for my partner now, and an occasional orgasm is not worth the misery of the dating scene.

All that said, it doesn't sound like you really like your partner. Not having sex is one thing, but it sounds like you are dismissed, ignored, and disrespected. That is the reason to leave. Not a missing orgasm.