I agree with your points. Seriously. My post wasn’t asking about what I needed to do to not be a piece of shit husband. I always saw myself as someone that couldn’t do these things, as a good man.

I’ve been struggling with depression and been trying to come to terms with what I’ve done. I’m trying to fix the situation, and first and foremost I have to be able to think clearly without having feelings towards this woman. What I need to know from this sub are ways to mentally shut off any attraction I have there.

I cannot reiterate enough, I do not want to feel the way I do. I’m finding out that we are all capable of some pretty horrible things, and although I thought I was immune to infidelity I’m now struggling to accept that I’m not. How do I squash all feelings for someone that I obviously shouldn’t be with? The logic is so easy, the execution is crushing.