Been there. My bf and I had been living together for 2 years. He stopped working, going to school and just pretty much slept all day. I knew he was depressed because we talked about it. We eventually tried meds but therapy was something he wouldn't touch.

I paid the full rent & grocery expenses for 8 months??? I was working full time for the city and made the equivalent to the both of us working 40hr weeks at a little above minimum.

Before the lease ended, I told him he needed help and that I wanted to take a break. I suggested he move back in with his parents and I'll find my own place. He panicked big time. That wasn't my intention tbh. I thought he would agree with me but this confrontation was apparently a wake up call.

He found us a new place together. He started a new round of meds with therapy. Things are much better now. I think he was in that vicious cycle for so long that time passed by without him noticing.

I don't know what you're dynamic is with your husband. Maybe be honest and tell him you're done putting up with his non action. You're not his mother.