These 2 comments just opened my eyes to what I've been struggling with lately. Despite my natural inclination to red pill understanding and the huge leap in understanding after processing the RP staples a couple of years ago, I found myself dropping plates to spend more and more time arguing with one girl with all of the BPD red flags. Warnings of self harm, tattoos, constant changing of hair color, only guy friends, slutty history, slutty clothes, flirty behavior, incomprehensibly self centered, irrationally void of accountability, obsessive with gossip, incapable of receiving criticism, always the victim, always the hero, ALWAYS demeaning. Seemingly disgusted by doing anything positive for anyone she wasnt CURRENTLY playing. Except 1 trait, she was not a freak in bed. She wanted to be dominant once, but I overturned that immediately. I've always fucked in control and rough since I was 14. She hated sex. Always complained about being sore and being too small. Sounds reasonable, but Ive been with over 50 women without having this kind of problem with it and I noticed a pattern of it matching the times sex could be useful vs something i could enjoy without additional benefit to herself. It baffled me because I've never met 1 woman so detached from sex. Her mother is obviously BPD and she is obsessed with hating her. Despises her. And as a result worships her dad to an almost creepy level. Makes me have some taboo questions that ive never had pip into my head.
I think that may explain why she isnt the sex fiend BPD, because she had her dad's attention and affection but did inherit BPD from Mom, so I'd postulate she's the worst brand of the disorder.
Now, my mom definitely had it. My dad has that or some other type of disorder that makes him a raging dick utterly incable of responsibility and focus despite being brilliant and charming as fuck.
I've never had such a draw to apply my mind to solving the puzzle. I had an innate draw to her despite my own abundant options, dissaproval of monogamy, and analytical feeling that i could do much much better in every gf checkbox. I viewed the relationship as my responsibility and my failure as Patrice O'Neal, Dante and many RP men logically view this.
I wouldn't take her shit. I'd apply the strategies thay have been successful time and time again, and id get her worshipping me, then shed she'd be a bitch, then I'd leave, then she'd worship me and promise me anything, ad infinitum.
Finally she had an outburst in front of my coworkers, and went far enough into crazy threat territory that I went no contact, and went on a bang marathon. I managed to splooge my insanity into a cock sock in enough younger sexier twats that it realigned my self worth temporarily. I feel self aware of my inclination towards that type of behavior and now i feel like i understand it after reading this thread.
I'm not sure just how common the behavior is, but after so many women being raised with societys acceptance of their complete last of respect and accountability, I feel like BPD is similar to this common personality trait but not the same. I think more people will see the difference after some unfortunate personal experience.