For me, an argument or fight is purely practical. If being upset at someone doesn't explicitly solve a problem, I won't bother doing it. I don't let my emotions get out during an argument if it doesn't need to come out.

On the other hand, usually for the girl the fight is more for her to get her emotions out. They're not looking to hear what I have to say, so anything I say will either be ignored at best or add fuel to the fire at worst. In the moment all I'm trying to do is let her get her thoughts and emotions out.

Later on, I take that and mull it over and think about it and then talk it out later once I've got my thoughts together and she's ready to actually listen.