*At extorting a relationship for all the man is worth. Marrige counselors only care about one thing: perpetuating the duration of counseling to rack up their fees. They make archetype the relationship so that they can make the lady feel like she is the victim and deserves the be "heard" and the man feel like abusive shit so that he is guilted into paying for more sessions because the wife likes the sense of gratification from being empowered by the counselor's spin on her life story and seeing her husband squirm under the thumb of her social engineer for hire. And who pays for counseling? The man. OP. Thats awful advice when the problem is finances. Counseling only works when divorce wasn't on the table. It only works if the situation could be solved by talking to each other and they just don't know how to communicate. The problem here is financial and verbal abuse.