Hey. Humans tend to compare a lot, myself included. It makes us feel terrible, even though we're actually not too bad ourselves. I don't want to make this sound over-rainbowy/overflowing with positivity, but putting everyone else aside, I just wanted to let you know that you are no less than the great person you are.

I hope that in time you'll find someone who will care for you in a special way. In a way that will make you realise that there are people out there who make your life worth living. It's sad that in the dating scene it's somehow been etched in our minds that we need to pursue all the time, well because everyone else is doing it. Everyone seems to be having the fucking time of their lives, having sex, falling in love, doing things together. I'm a 25-year-old virgin and I've never had an actual relationship in my whole life. Never even kissed. Do I feel shitty about it? No. Not at all. Sometimes loneliness gets to me, which is one of the most awful feelings in the world, but I get by. Do I feel like I'm missing out? Maybe. If anything makes me feel that I've missed out a huge chunk of my life, it'd be depression. I don't have any advice I can give you because I have no experience (I don't even bother taking care of my skin or putting on make-up, and I dress like a tomboy, although I know tip#1 is to groom and make myself all pretty), but you know, it seems like you're making a lot of effort. That's one thing I admire and respect - you actually trying to get out of your comfort zone. I can see that you're trying.

I've read somewhere that maybe at some point people need to stop questioning why. Why can't I get a girl? I'm doing my best, but why doesn't she notice me at all? Why wasn't I born with a face like (name any celebrity)? We tend to drift towards beauty - beautiful things, beautiful scenery, beautiful people. There's always the handsome popular jock around, but you know, when I see someone else who is confident and comfortable in his own shoes, takes care of himself reasonably well, filial to his parents, invests a lot of his time and effort into activities he's interested in, hell, that is way more attractive to me than the group of hot guys in the corner. So maybe it's time to stop asking why. I know it's easier said than done but stop caring about what other people do. Think about you, and what you enjoy best. I can't predict what changes will happen in your life but I'd like to imagine that people will naturally gravitate towards you in time. Personally I tried online dating a few months ago (because you know, I thought, maybe it's time to get into a relationship! My 25-year-old body won't stay 25 for too long! Might as well share it with someone! Whoop whoop), but got scarred because the guy stood me up and went no contact. I went back home and cried. Lol. I felt like a complete loser, but I only knew him for a few days so my misery didn't last for too long. Whereas if I grew attached to him it'd be a totally different story. Anyways. I tried. But I don't know when I'll ever be ready to try again.

Sorry, I digress. You're not alone. You'll do well, buddy. Hang in there. I'm hoping the best for you.