Yeah, you have every right to be upset. He’s unhappy with himself for being in such a state, that’s he’s given up and wants to escape reality by pursuing video games and buying similar items to spend hours upon it per day. And since he’s given up and sees that nothing bad is really happening to him (he’s not homeless, his bills and wants/needs are being met, he still has a great woman) he’s complacent and doesn’t see an issue in his behavior. And he only gets mad when you point out his flaws is because he’s resistant to change, and he projects it onto you instead.

I would suggest either a few things. Try to get a driver’s license! It’s so hard to function w/o one. Therapy is a cost so I’m not sure if can/want to afford for him. That is a tool is he WANTS to change. But if he doesn’t then well, it’s another cost that’s leading to no direction. The other thing is to break contact with him, because it’s affecting you a lot. He helps you with your business, but to what cost? Your sanity, your savings? If you’re spending more than a part time worker on your bf, that’s a problem. I understand the being rent free under your bf’s roof is easier, so maybe you can just close the savings and stop making it a double effort? Have your own bank account? Say, “Hey, I want an account for my money.” Or just make another account and transfer your savings there w/o his knowledge. It’s your hard earned money. If he asks what happened, you say you did it for the business, or tell the truth, your choice. If he complains that it’s ‘“our” money, hire a part time worker and say you don’t need his help anymore. He’s doing minimal effort for maximum profit. And once you have enough money as a good cushion to move out, then break up with him if you want.