I am the mother of an 8 year old child who I had at 21 (by choice it was planned and I wanted one child and at a young age due to ongoing endo)
I then fell pregnant on the pill when she was 4. I was in no state to have another baby plus I was in a new relationship and financially I wasn't doing the best. I couldn't give my attention to two babies. I found out really early and had an abortion through surgery. Which was fine and I was emotionally okay and physically okay. I had light bleeding after.
Then 1 year after that I found out I was pregnant again on the pill (super fertile or something) I was still in the same relationship as the father of the first abortion and this time it was a really tough decision. We were both financially okay but our relationship wasn't hundred percent stable and I had already been a single mother to my daughter and wasn't going to take that risk again. I was well aware a this point how responsible bringing up a child is.
I went to see my doctor who worked out I was only 3 weeks. It was hard to tell as I had been skipping my period on the pill. But the symptoms had only just started. He thought the clinic was going to do an ultrasound to check and the clinic thought he had done one (I found all this out after) so they just went ahead and did the procedure thinking he had confirmed with an ultrasound and I was 3/4 weeks.
I woke up and something felt different. The nurse in the room had a weird look and came straight up to me and said there was an issue. She told me that I was actually 12 weeks pregnant not 3 and my body will probably handle it worse. I was devastated because I wasn't expecting having to deal with being further along (I probably still would of made the same choice but I would of prepared my self mentally as I know what a 12 week scan looked like it's a lot harder than a 3 week. Old fetus)
I bled for 4 weeks straight and had to have a curate (I don't know it's spelt) to get rest of it out. I had nightmares. I don't know if it's effected me long term to be able to have anymore kids. There was damage but when the time comes if it ever does again I will just have to see if I can fall pregnant.
It also was part of the breakup of my. Relationship. He said if he had known I was so far along he would of considered keeping it. It caused a lot of tension for a while. He was mourning.
I wish I had been more aware of the ultrasound thing. I think abortions are great to have available as you shoukd only have a child if you can commit 100 percent to that child for your life. They need you. And they aren't a Bandaid either. Not everyone should have kids or it isn't the right time and accidents happen.
I just wish I had been more prepared for unexpected