I never said there was anything "wrong" with that.

I know, I was just stressing my own feelings, that I’m not being judgmental when I ask these questions. I didn’t want to imply that there’s anything wrong with being a virgin at 20, but it is below average, so I just wanted some background info so I could try to give an informed opinion (believe it or not, I do participate in these forums to try to help people, when I can). Likewise, you’re an adult, and so is she, so if you want to have sex with each other, just for the sake of it, that’s fine too.

I mean, all the guys on here who are telling me to go for it wouldn't seem to think so either.

Of course that’s what most guys are going to say. This is Reddit Like I said, I knew you’d get plenty of responses like that, which I presume that you’d already heard. But the very fact that you’re asking if you should do, rather than just going ahead and doing it, lead me to believe that there is a reason you’re hesitating. Again, I want to give you an informed opinion.

But like I said, even without the sex, never even kissing a girl is a little more unusual. I understand not being in a rush about it, which is a pretty good attitude to have, but unless you’ve lived a very sheltered life it does strike me as odd that you’ve never met a girl that you felt connected to enough to want to start a relationship with. As a species, human beings are social creatures, we tend to desire companionship, even if it’s not of a strictly sexual nature. So it makes wonder if you either put really high value on sex and relationship or possible too high value on it? I mean, waiting for the right person is fine, but waiting for the perfect person can be futile, and give you unrealistic expectations.

So, in this situation, I tend to think that taking this woman up on her offer of casual sex might not be the best for you, right now. The truth is, casual sex is not for everyone. Not even all men, even though most like to think it does. We see here it all the time, from both gender. People come here saying that had an FWB arrangement with someone but now they’re starting to develop feelings for them, and they’re confused. And no one really knows how they are going to react after their first time. My concern is that if you have sex with this woman, even knowing beforehand that it doesn’t mean anything deeper, you may find yourself feeling emotions that you’re not ready for. Maybe you should wait for someone that you actually care for, who feels the same for you?

Of course, if so, I’d also suggest that you start to make an effort to find someone.