I think it’s a mixture, if that makes sense. She always says she’s just “playing devil’s advocate” but, I know she’s trying to get under my skin with smaller things and I do ignore the small things. But, when it’s bigger things, like pretending SO isn’t doing anything to get ready for the baby and trying to say he’s against me, I know she’s serious. I don’t know why she does it, I wish I did. That’s part of why I made the post: I don’t know her end goal, but mostly I just wanna handle it all effectively, and with balance.

I will say, I think part of her “he’s against you” mentality is projection as she’s convinced that everyone is against her. I, personally (and I could be wrong I guess), think she still holds a grudge against him. When everything came to head before, it was because of him telling her “you’re an abusive person” and standing up for me because he felt nobody had. So I think she sees him as an “enemy”, even though he never interferes with us having a relationship. I don’t know if the goal is to drive a wedge so she can be like “see, he didn’t love you, that’s why he said those things” or if her goal is to just push me and see if let her talk shit about him.