Lack of Openness

I noticed she would follow a routine of the exact same compliments every single time we would interact. She would go out of her way to point out how funny I was, how good a match we were for each other, how shy I made her, and a bunch of other things. But the way she did it wasn't natural at all.

Even if there was nothing in our interactions to let her make those comments, she would find a way to make all of the exact same comments each time even if it was really unnatural. Her tone would be different than normal and it didn't feel like she actually meant any of it or her heart was in it. It seemed like a script which she was following to make guys like her.

Some of the things she said to me seemed to be a bit too perfect for me like she was going out of her way to present herself as what she thought I wanted. She never once disagreed with me or expressed a different opinion. In short, it felt like she was coached to win me over.

I thought that she was doing all of this because she liked me and wanted to present her best self, but it made me think I didn't really know her real thoughts, feelings or opinions. There was also some evidence that other guys were in the picture, so I wondered if she was following a similar routine with all of them.

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