I get that. But it's also about creating clear language. "We're low on milk," could mean, "Hey, pick up some milk tomorrow," it could also mean, "Hey, don't use any more milk, I need that for later," it could also mean, "Don't worry about picking up more milk, I'll get it next time I'm out."

Taking care of a shared living space is both parties responsibilities. There is no doubt about that. The debate is in defining the boundaries on who needs to do what when. It's like you said, you have seen men who have been taught.

Those same men with a different partner would need to be retrained because the vague language is going to be different from individual to individual. It takes time to learn what a partner means when they use certain passive language.