3. Ladies who have lost their father, how did you get through early adulthood witho...

Ladies who have lost their father, how did you get through early adulthood without him ?

My dad died when I was 9, he had melanoma and didn't want treatment. My mom was left to raise me and my 4 siblings. It was rough and we all closed up and didn't really talk about it for 10 years until I was in university. My mom did everything for us, but I always felt like I grew up way too fast. I devoted myself to school and did really well. Graduated top of my high school class and had scholarships for post secondary. Moved away to escape the family problems.

I am 26 now and very close to my family. I have a lot of anxiety that I still have to overcome. I thought I had to be a perfect child to make things easier for mom. I still am working to get over this perfectionism and fear of letting others down. From the outside I am well adjusted but I still struggle most days being comfortable as me. I have gone to therapy and luckily have great siblings and a boyfriend I can talk to about everything. I'm not sad anymore about losing my dad. Like someone else said, it's just something that happened and I accept it. TALKING to people about how you feel is key, no matter how long that takes to do and how hard it is. :)

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